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Eight Dates

By: John Gottman PhD, Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD, Doug Abrams, Rachel Carlton Abrams
Narrated by: James Patrick Cronin, Julie McKay
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Navigating the challenges of long-term commitment takes effort - and it just got simpler, with this empowering, step-by-step guide to communicating about the things that matter most to you and your partner. Drawing on 40 years of research from their world-famous Love Lab, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman invite couples on eight fun, easy, and profoundly rewarding dates, each one focused on a make-or-break issue: trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams.

Interactive activities and prompts provide motivation to stay open, stay curious, and, most of all, stay talking to each other. And the range - from the four skills you need for intimate conversation (including Put into Words What You Are Feeling) to tips on being honest about your needs, while also validating your partner’s own emotions - will resonate, whether you’re newly together or a longtime couple looking to fortify your bond. You will discover (or rediscover) your partner like never before - and be able to realize your hopes and dreams for the love you desire and deserve.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2018 John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Doug Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams (P)2019 Audible, Inc.

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Fantastic

Practical information for any couple on the journey towards a triumphant marriage! Can't wait to implement what I have learned! Well done!

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I wish I read it before marriage!

I would recommend this book to every teenager looking to marry. It will enrich your life God-willing.

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insightful

The only words I used to describe this book is awesome awesome awesome awesome awesome awesome.

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Exceptional book for a couples

I will absolutely recommend this book for my couples in therapy! Great book, so glad they wrote it. There’s no fluff all good content.

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Heartwarming and Beautiful Way to Strong Intimacy

I can’t even describe how beautifully written and thoughtful this book is backed by solid research and two therapist couples read in turn by the authors. I literally was just having a discussion with my daughter’s 19 year old boyfriend just days earlier from my purchase explaining we (society) weren’t taught to date correctly at home or in school. This skill and empathy in my mind is as important as financial literacy, our health, mental well being, ultimate happiness, and breathing. It’s something I have been in search of for myself for years in the wrong relationship. A perfect wedding gift. I also plan to introduce to my kids and reread several more times doing the exercises for myself and hopefully incorporate into a growing relationship of my own. Thank you to the Gottman’s and Abrahm’s for writing such a practical heartfelt piece that anyone can use to better their life’s in the most important way.

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Enjoyed listening

This Book is very applicable and brings a level of excitement to going on dates.

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Great book!

Must read! Very practical advice!! I will definitely be implementing their strategies for communication and their recommendations for the different date topics.

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Begins & ends with Trust and Commitment and seeking to Understand and Cherish the other.

Great and thoughtful dates with specific, but widely applicable and adaptable questions. Really appreciated the chapter on trust and commitment and the one on dreams.

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Straightforward and informative

What I liked most about this book was the idea the authors put forth that a great love story is a never-ending conversation. This notion runs counter to the prevailing notions in our media — ones that say love is an easy, happily-ever-after tale. In reality, keeping our relationships fresh takes hard work and openness, again and again.

This book helps readers analyze all aspects of their relationships, then ask the right questions in regard to each subject. As the authors state, as long as we are willing to do the work, willing to commit and be forever curious about our partners, we will keep our love alive.

But that love cannot last if we don’t keep the conversation open. This book helps bring that message to light. It’s a quick, straightforward, and to-the-point read. I’d recommend checking it out.

-Brian Sachetta
Author of “Get Out of Your Head”

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Great Book for Couples

Definitely recommend this book for all couples in all stages. Helps provide you with a different perspective to increase close-ness and understanding.

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